Day 19 - try not to get into an argument with your lodgerIn most cases your lodger experience will be a positive one. However sadly, this is not always the case. If you do experience problems, todays tips should help.

Stage 1 – talk to your lodger
If you are unhappy about something, have a word with your lodger about it. For example if he is not complying with your house rules (discussed on day 14), or is starting to pay rent late.

Bear in mind that it may be that your lodger is unhappy about something that *you* are doing, and this is the reason for his behaviour. We all have irritating habits – your lodger may find your love of opera played loudly as annoying as you find his failure to wipe the kitchen surfaces down after use. If you are both reasonable people you should be able to sort something out.

Getting it out into the open so you both know what the problem is, will generally be better than letting things fester.

However you should try not to get into an argument or say anything you might later regret. If you don’t think this is possible, it might be best just to write. Although if your relationship with your lodger has deteriorated to the extent where you cannot have a proper conversation with them, you may want them to leave anyway.

If the problem is about late payment of rent, there may be a reason for this – perhaps your lodger has had to take a cut in salary for example and is finding things difficult. It is better that you know this sooner rather than later.  For example, with good lodger who you would be sorry to lose, you might consider giving a temporary rent reduction.

Stage 2 – write a letter or note
If talking about the problem has not done any good, the next thing to do is to put it in writing. This may also be a good idea if your lodger is out a lot, and it is difficult to find a time to speak to him.

You may also find it easier to put your complaint in writing anyway, particularly if you get flustered and are easily intimidated by your lodger, or if you feel that he does not take any notice of what you say.

Your first letter need not be very formal. Just set out clearly and without using any language that might antagonise, the things that have been concerning you. Don’t be too accusatory, or say anything that you will later regret. Make sure you keep a copy, and that the copy is dated.

Stage 3 – write a second, more formal, letter
If your chat and first note doesn’t seem to have worked, you might want to try another letter. Or perhaps your lodger improved after your talk but has since slipped back into his old ways.

Make the second letter a bit more formal. You should also  warn him that if things do not improve you will be asking him to leave (assuming that this is in fact what you are thinking of doing).

Note that you do not *have* to do a second letter, and if you have already decided that you want your lodger to leave you can skip this stage and go straight to giving formal notice to leave. (Or if you are not going to ask him to leave, and think that he just needs a further reminder, you could do another informal letter, as discussed above)

The threat of being asked to leave may bring your lodger to his senses and hopefully you won’t have any more problems. However if he takes no notice and just carries on, then you should consider seriously asking him to go.  This is after all your home. If your lodger is behaving badly or not paying rent, you should not be expected to put up with this.

The first stage of getting a lodger to leave, is giving him a formal written notice

Stage 4 – give formal notice to leave
[Note: Today’s tips are about problem situations. However, in most cases where landlords ask lodgers to leave, it is for something non-controversial which both parties understand (such as the landlord needing to use the room for something else). However, even here you should (just for the record) give your lodger a formal (although pleasantly worded) letter asking him to leave.]

Giving formal notice is the first stage, legally, in recovering possession of a property.

Where there is a written agreement, note that unless your lodger is in serious breach of his lodger agreement, or the agreement allows for early termination, you will not be entitled to ask him to leave during the fixed term covered by his lodger agreement.  

The standard notice period (for lodgers)  is ‘not less than 28 days’, ending at the end of a rental period. So, if their agreement is monthly and runs from the 12th of the month to the 11th, the notice should ask them to leave on the next 11th day in the month after 28 days.  If they have a weekly agreement which runs from Saturday to Friday, the notice period should end on the first Friday after 28 days. You should be able to tell from your lodger agreement (discussed on day 15) what the relevant days are.

If you are asking your lodger to leave because of relatively minor matters such as personality clashes or because they never clean the bathroom, you should give them the full 28 days so they cannot criticise you.

You should also read your lodger agreement carefully (if you have one) and follow any procedure set out there. For example, it may state that you should give a longer notice period. If your lodger is not seriously in breach of the agreement, you should do this.

However for more serious problems such as aggressive or violent behaviour, stealing, or if you find your lodger has been using your property for criminal activities such as using or dealing in prohibited drugs (which will put him in breach of his lodger agreement), a shorter notice period may be appropriate.

Note – For very serious incidents, it may also be a good idea to tell the police when incidents occur. This will be helpful if you then need their help later if you have to evict your lodger (discussed on Day 20) as there will then be a documented history of (for example) violence, and they will be more likely to co-operate with you.

For cases of rent arrears, if you are using a professionally drafted agreement (as discussed on Day 15) , this will often say that the lodger’s license to occupy your property will end automatically if he is in arrears of rent of two months. However, you will still need to give him a formal letter asking him to vacate.

There is a printed form of ‘Notice to Quit’, which can be used (the wording should have an option for licenses), but generally, a letter saying that you are giving them 28 days (or whatever other period is appropriate) notice to leave, will be sufficient.  The notice to quit letter should just be about asking them to leave, and perhaps giving the reasons for this.  If you want to discuss something else, put it in a separate letter.

Note that the section 21 and section 8 notices used for assured shorthold tenants should *not* be used (for more information about these, and evicting tenants, see my Landlord Law web-site).

Tomorrow we will look at what you should do if your lodger refuses to go.

17 Responses

  1. What about Lodgers who are having an adulterous affair? Should they a) just be left to get on with it b) told that their rooms are needed and asked politely to leave?

  2. Thats really up to you. Adultery is not against the law. On the other hand it is your house, and if you don’t like it going on, you are entitled to ask them to leave.

    However if you decide that you want them to leave, you should give them the full notice period, or comply by whatever is required by your lodger agreement if this is different.

  3. I have served notice on a bullying lodger. If my lodger leaves before the end of the month do I have to refund any of her rent? Stupidly we didnt sign a lodger agreement but an annotated AST

  4. I think probably, if there is no written agreement and she has paid in advance, it might best to refund pro rata for the days she was not there. That sounds fair and she cannot argue with it. But do a careful check of her room first to make sure that there is no damage which you would have to make a deduction for.

  5. amazing so helpful thanks Tessa.
    One last thing. Am I able to advertise her room while she still lives there? I want to advertise it on spareroom.com. I probably wouldn’t be able to show anyone her room though.

  6. If you have a difficult relationship with her it might make things worse if you are advertising and showing strangers over her room. My feeling is it would be best to wait until she has gone.

  7. I’ve just found out that my lodgers are using coke on a semi-regular basis. Legally what is the situation as a landlord, I’m assuming that I could also be prosecuted if the police did get involved?

  8. I would suggest you ask them to stop and say that if they don’t you will have to ask them to leave.

    If you then find that they are still doing it, serve them formal notice to go, and evict them if necessary.

    As you are liable as the householder, this is not something you can allow to continue. That is my view anyway.

  9. Thanks Tessa, all of a sudden I feel like an uncool dad! Should make for an interesting conversation.

  10. I am sure that if you explain that you are at risk of prosecution if you allow them to continue, they will understand and respect this. If they don’t, well, do you really want them in your house anymore anyway?

  11. Hi

    I have noticed things have been going missing, a couple of small cameras and some change from my desk. I did see my lodger leaving my room (through the window) when I returned home today and some more change has gone missing. (a lock is now on the door)

    Do I have rights to go and search his room ? Also if I search it without him present can I wait until he gets home with any items I find and kick him out ?

    If I call the Police and my suspicions are unfounded would that be counted as waisting Police time ?

    Thanks

    Ed

  12. You need to be a bit careful. Suggest you go into his room for a perfectly legitimate reason (eg to check its condition or something) but have a very good look around while you are there.

    If you find he has been stealing things, this would be justification for kicking him out, but perhaps give him at least 24 hours to find somewhere else to go.

  13. My lodger recently lost his job and that he coundn’t afford his rent but didn’t tell me until the day the rent was due. He was trying to sort it (borrow off parents) so I gave him a few days but he came back and informed me that he was unsuccessful but it wasn’t a problem because I had his deposit which he wanted to use as rent ie live in my house with no deposit ! This was unacceptable so I asked him to leave and as he had been staying at his girlfriends for the last two weeks he had a place to go. The following 2 weeks were a bit fraught with him sending me threatening texts so I changed the locks. We now have a new lodger but I have had a void period of nearly a month. Can I keep some or all of his deposit due to this void period, cost of changing locks and readvertising the room. I also stored his stuff for 11 days before he was willing to collect it. Thanks.

    Tom

  14. Thanks for your prompt reply. I shall break it all down in a letter clarifying all the costs incurred and just hope he takes the lesson to all ways pay your rent. Thanks

  15. Our lodger has been found stealing from us (we found two reciets for CEX stating she sold our stuff to them). We contacted the police who told us not to evict her until they came around and this was over 2 weeks ago. She took a lot! We feel we should evict her and our contract stated any stealing would be an immediate vacation of the property. How do we go about this as the police don’t seem bothered to help?

  16. Its not the police who have to live with a thief is it? If you notify them of the date the lodger will be leaving then I can’t see how you can be blamed if they fail to act.